Are You Unknowingly Blocking Your Success in Life?
In my new book Triumph, one of the chapters covers something that I think may happen to a lot of us. In our life journey, we unintentionally block out certain area's of growth or goals in our life because of seeing only the current situation and not rising above what seems to be the current normality at that time.
Let me give you an example: When I was recovering from a catastrophic head injury, I was not physically and mentally progressing at the pace my medical team thought I should be. I was supposed to be in the Intensive Care Unit for three days...23 days later I was losing my faith, joy along with my hope for a recovery. Other ICU patients were dying in nearby rooms. I would hear families cry and whale in sadness when they lost their family member. This was a very unnerving and tough time in my life. I was beginning to think I wouldn't make it out alive or even resume a normal life again.
Looking back now fully recovered, I ask myself how did I make it out of that dooming time? I believe it was what a physical therapist said to me on my first day of PT. While on a balance beam being held and guided by my physical therapist, we were working to get the left side of my body working again. Not able to stand up on my own being held by the physical therapist, I was hunched over and struggling to stand upright on the beam shaking with weakness broken but determined.
I was asked by the physical therapist to move my left leg onto the balance beam, and I just wasn't able to do that. I tried so hard, but my brain couldn't communicate with my let correctly yet. As tried and tried, I gave it everything I had and it still wasn't enough, it didn't work. At that moment I thought to myself, my body isn't ever going to be the same again. Thoughts like, will my wife, family, and friends ever accept me this way? Could I accept me this way? So many questions in a very low point in my life.
Just then, at this moment, my physical therapist knelt down in front of me and raised my chin with her hand looked into my eyes of broken defeat and said, "Tim! This isn't you right now!" "You will recover!" "We'll work on this." "When you fully recover, please come back and visit me so I can meet the real Tim Ewell!"
Later that afternoon back in my hospital room, as I was staring at the ceiling, I began to think about what the physical therapist said to me. She said that I would recover. I thought, she works with a lot of people like me, so if she thinks I can fully recover maybe I can?
At that moment a mental shift occurred in my mind, body and soul. I started to regain my faith again. It seemed my physical therapist had mentally enabled me or gave me permission to heal.
This moment was an epiphany for my life moving forward. After that day of her powerful words to me, my recovery went into overdrive mode. My recovery speed was baffling to my doctors and physical therapists.
"I thought to myself when I was told I could heal; I did heal. Wow, how powerful our mind is! How our words to each other have so much power."
I thought, have I been blocking out other areas of healing, restoration and other positive possibilities in my life? Was I allowing my current internal narrative and landscape limit my life vision in other areas of my life?
During that time I learned that I always need to look down the road from my current situation. Where do I want to be? I can get there if I allow it and work hard to get there.
Are you unknowingly blocking out areas of success, love, healing or restoration in your life?
The power of our words to others and our thoughts are more powerful than we can imagine if we intend and enable it.
Oh, and I did go back to visit my therapist after I was 100% recovered! It's a great moving story of gratitude, love, mercy and victory but you'll have to buy the book to read about it! ;-p